so ya wanna be kind?

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The other day a friend asked me to tell her how to go about doing random acts of kindness.(apparently people tend to think if you have a blog you also have the answer to all of life’s questions, not gonna lie I love it) She watched a video of this man that did a bunch of small things for people and even a dog and karma worked out and it all ended up going great for him and for the people he helped in the end, as it should. I mean it is a simple concept isnt it? Do good things to be a good person and make the world a good place? However, when you’re straight asked the question in real time, in my case at least, you’re left semi dumbfounded. The answers seem obvious and I searched my brain for the small things that I already strive to do every day (hold doors open for people, smile at strangers, the basics that you’re taught before preschool even.) But I felt stupid saying these things out loud because of how obvious they are. Well, I’ve been thinking about the answer for almost 48 hours now, and have realized one thing: there are no such things as random acts of kindness.

As human beans, we have full power over who we are and what our actions are. Nothing you do is ever going to be random. So you want to be like the man that passed along a little bit of love to the world? Do it. Choose it. Wake up and decide that is who you are going to be. Form a habit of having that mindset, and eventually, make it a lifestyle. soooo you’re probably still thinking, alright, great Pinterest quote, but I’m still lost as to what to do to make the world a better place. Ya know what? Me too. But here are a few things that I am either doing or working on in order to improve myself/the world just a lil bit every day:

be grateful // never take a single thing for granted & know how amazing it is that you are given the life that you are given. for me, this is as simple as walking around campus and taking in the beauty that is the fall trees and cool air (sometimes cool air, October seriously needs to learn how to be October here in KS because 89 degrees is so totally not cool…) and smiling. SMILING!!!!!! Did ya know that physically forcing yourself to smile actually does work muscles that trigger brain activity that in turn does in fact truly make you happy? The biggest step I had to take in learning to be grateful is to learn how to be grateful. Update from that learning: you can’t be grateful while being upset. Force yourself to smile if you really have to, but just make sure to take even 5 minutes before bed every night to write down either in a journal or even notes on your phone a few things that day that made you smile. not only does this writing ALSO stimulate happiness, but looking back on this list is seriously a major happy factor if you’re ever in need of one of those (non-forced) smiles.

pray // if you have a relationship with the Big Guy, take time to talk to Him every single day. this is a purposeful act of kindness that you can commit to in order to better YOURSELF, which can in turn better others. There is something so crazy cool about the feeling of satisfaction that can be gained from just taking some time to ask Him what we need to do in order to fulfill His plan for us.

ask others how they are // this is something i am for sure improving on. I can often get caught up in worrying about myself that I forget to simply ask others how they are. this is so so so easy and can honestly turn someone’s day around just to know that you care. whether it is your teacher when you walk into class, or a friend that you talk to every day, reminding them that you are interested in their life is a really neato thing that I think we can all improve on. Imagine how awesome the world would be if we all talked about our day.

DUDE! JUST BE NICE!!!! // this is so freakin’ easy!!!!! it’s a habit that you need to stick to and go out of your way to start doing that’s for sure, but it is one you will never regret taking the time to adapt to.

pet some pups & cats // hey, they need lovin’ & kindess in their life as well! it is hard work providing happiness for so many people!!!!

Well, take this Wednesday (or whatever day it is when you’re coming across this) for all that it is. Smile a bit, pray a bit, laugh a bit, cry a bit, sleep a bit, eat a bit, giggle a bit, skip a bit, dance a bit, just be you a bit today. & remind others that they’re more than welcome to do the same. Who knows, maybe telling someone that they can sure as heck skip a bit today is all they really need.

What are YOU gonna do in order to put some purposeful acts of kindness into your life?
Until next time, xoxo, Ally


weekly wrap-up

Happy Friday!!! I have been super busy after getting back to school Tuesday night that Friday just crept on up on me without me updating you on my time at home!!


the main thing I miss about being home is the food. my absolute all time favorite thing to make at home is fresh bruschetta. long story but tomatoes are a food (fruit?? veggie? did the world ever solve that debacle?) super close to my heart because I used to pick them from my grandparents’ garden when i was just a little nugget & eat them straight up like apples, but they’re still one of my favorite flavors. Not to mention that I will devor ANYTHING that involves cilantro.


AND MY DOG!!! I miss the sweet girl so much already😦 she has the ultimate life with her sole job being cute and all.


while i was home i got to scamper up to Junkstock with my mama and 2/3 of the sibling clan. It’s so fun to see all the local art and crafts but I’m mainly in it for the gyro food trucks if I’m being real…

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initiation into alpha chi omega was this thursday so I thought I’d include yet another snap with da biggie! isn’t she the cutest?? she’s also the BOMB at canvas-ing (after being in college i am deciding that it is a verb) and made me so many adorable navy/gold/pink ones that match my room perfectly!

until next time, xoxo, Ally


so how’s college?

hey hi wow miss me much? A little under two weeks of no blog posts and hopefully you’ve been catching up slightly via my occasional insta posts updating you on my life. My last post was an update on me feelin’ a little bit under the weather…that only escalated for the rest of the week and I went to maybe 5 classes all week due to being cooped up in my bed coughing my little heart out all night&day. The college plague for sure caught up to me last week and happened just in time for me to head home for fall break for the weekend. Don’t get me wrong, I adore all my pals here on campus, but I absolutely needed some quality time my people back home. I got lots of homemade meals, dates with my parents at my favorite local food places, and a little bit of shopping in with my mama. Not to mention lots of cuddling with my pets & little brother too!  I headed home this past Friday and today (Wednesday) was my first day back at classes. It felt good to sit in a classroom after being sick in them the last time I was here, and after my professor last minute cancelled my 8 am late last night, I got to sleep in and not head to class till noon, got to 2 hours worth of class, and head to a therapeutical Target run to get some goods to get me through the week. Pretty easy start to my time back if ya ask me!


Back to my time at home-I miss it already. I was reading a blogger my same age’s post today on her truthful college experience (Frannie’s post here!!!) and was hit with a little sigh of relief knowing I am not the only one who feels these kinds of feelings. I know it can be hard to listen to me say this after I have only been here for around 2 months with going home twice for the weekend already, but freshman year of college is HARD. 

I have been told my entire life that I was going to thrive in college. I am very independent, I think that comes from being an oldest child with a 4-year age gap between me and my closest sister. I have always been very self-motivated in terms of things I need to get done. & not to toot my own horn, but it is something that I am very proud of, I am a very responsible and I like to think mature person for my age. I loved to believe all of these people who told me I would do so well in college. I have always known I was going to attend the University of Kansas. My dad went there and was a diehard Jayhawk (and still is!) He has talked about how much he loved it there ever since I can remember and my entire family gathers to watch basketball games every season. There are pictures of me in “future Jayhawk” onesies as a baby! My parents did not choose my college for me by any means, the choice was fully up to me, but I had my heart set on getting out of state, away from my hometown vibes, and with my dad being the coolest person I know, I knew being a Jayhawk was it. I only applied to KU. I got in, signed my housing contract as soon as I was able to, and listened to all my friends as they dealt with college decision stress while I basically was already packing to move out. I had my heart set on this being the time of my peak like everyone had told me it would be.

I promised myself not to get too ahead and to live in the moment senior year. I like to think I did. Some of my best high school memories are for sure from the times I let myself not be too excited for college and simply be a high school senior: going with all of my gal pals to winter formal together, every single student board meeting with that amazingly talented and cool group of girls, hitting the peak of my speech career with my best friends, and so many more senior moments down the line. I worked tons in the summer preparing myself for the very harsh reality that is college freshman money management, but as soon as August rolled around, I was ready to go. I had these big dreams of putting my life into play as a big cool independent college student and was ready to pursue them. I am very big into family and sure we all cried when they dropped me off and I tried to not look back once they left my dorm. Rush week kept me busy too many hours a day and the first week of classes I was far too excited about the change to process any emotions really.

and then came the second week of college.

I wasn’t feeling so hot about my major after going to my education specific classes, I felt uncomfortable about the social scene, and I missed my family more than I ever imaged that I would. I didn’t go out a whole lot in high school, not because I disapproved of it, but because I am a firm believer in finding your strengths and what makes you happy and living your life around that. I am a homebody. I am naturally an introvert (which genuinely surprises so many people) and no, I am not anti-social, I just know how to make friends with MYSELF, which I think is something a lot of people struggle with doing, but learning to be alone is something that we all need to know how to master. So being thrown into the social scene that is college (& let me tell you , there is one, especially at a huge school like KU) really threw me for a loop. I was crushed between my comfort zone and knowing I was supposed to hop out of that zone during these years of my life but that in general was SO HARD for me & still is today. I held back tears every time that I called my family because I wanted them to feel like I was doing great (this was a stupid move, your parents are there for you through EVERYTHING and learning that they even kinda sorta want you to miss them a bit was a huge breakthrough for me), and would genuinely get so upset whenever my mom would read my texts and not reply (this sounds SO silly and knowing my mom she probably didn’t even realize she read it because she was focused on my other three siblings, like she should be, but i was REALLY emotionally unstable okay) and I cried almost every night and honestly didn’t even know why I was crying. The first time I came home for Labor Day, i was there for a weekend and could NOT stop crying the day I left. My parents were super concerned that I didn’t like it at KU and I couldn’t tell them enough that that was by far not the case. I absolutely love it here, like I always knew I would. I love a majority of my classes, I have met so many cool people, I am in love with Alpha Chi, and honestly do love the freedom at times. The only way I could think I could of phrasing what was going on in my head was “I want to be there, but I want you all to be there, and I want myself to be there.”

In high school, not going to dance around it, I had my shit together. Especially jr/sr year, I was good friends with so many people and so many stable relationships, I was running student board and absolutely loved that, I was working and had a consistent income, not to mention my home had everything I needed and if it didn’t I was a 2 minutes car ride away from Target, and in college…I don’t have all that, and as a creature of insane habit, not gonna lie, all that change and dependency being taken away from me, it freaks me out a whole lot.

Well, I am two months & if there is one thing I want to let you all know that I have learned: expectation and reality are two very very very different things. And that is OKAY. 

I feel almost guilty at times that I am not doing something right in terms of how I am going about “college.” My friends talk about never wanting to go home, loving every second, having the time of their lives, and how much they love the freedom. I honestly cringe every time I hear them refer to our dorm as “home.” I think it is the voices of everyone who told me I would thrive haunting me and making my inner monologue a constant “why aren’t you thriving yet?” To be honest, I’m not yet. & it has taken me a long time to admit it, but that’s okay. I don’t think of this as “home” quite yet, and that’s okay. It has taken a lot of teary eyed nights and a lot of confidence boosting from close friend and my family but, I know who I am, and I know that change can be scary, even for the most confident of people. As of now, my main task at hand is understanding that freshman year of college is GONNA be hard. That it is something I WILL have to work through, and that there is a whole world of plans that God has for me waiting on the other side of this mountain.

I am using next semester to try out classes that I have interests in to make sure that my major really what I want to dedicate time and money pursue. I am pushing myself to constantly meet new people. & over and over and over, I am telling myself I’m okay.  SOOOO THANK YOU for letting me use this corner of the web as my virtual diary, but most importantly, if you’re going through, or went through, or are terrified that you’re GOING to go through the same thing: it is OKAY. your feelings are valid, and are never wrong. so grab some coffee, call your parents, and be you.

until next time, xoxo,  Ally


apple cider + cough medicine


happy Monday friends! October is my favorite month of the year (right next to my birth-month, June) but this year I wish it started off slightly different. I’ve had a nasty awful cough for about a week now but it has really started to pick up over the last couple days. I am the definition of a busy body and constantly need to be doing things, so telling myself to take a break is one of the hardest things for myself to do. Sadly it had to take a visit to the health center to get myself some real rest, but I am more than trilled to take some time off. I won’t lie I am real nervous about catching back up on school work, but a few doctor’s notes & some office hours won’t hurt anyone! For me it is off to my bed with plenty of cough drops, water, and some of the apple cider i picked up while getting some medicine at Target yesterday #hellofall!! I absolutely cannot wait to head back home on Friday and get some much needed family and bestie love from the 402.

Hope your October is starting off just the way it is supposed to! Pumpkin everything and a whole lotta love🙂

until next time, xoxo, Ally



Screen Shot 2016-10-02 at 8.26.28 PM.pngLet me start this off by saying blogging is 100% the best thing that I’ve ever decided to stick to. Absolutely nothing makes me happier and the immense amount of connections (& friends!) I have made along the way makes every ounce of it ten times more fun. I know that the people who read my blog are kind of the coolest people I know. I know you’re the ones taking time out of your day to see what I have gotta say, but I am each and every single one of your #1 fans.

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things i’ve learned in my 1st month of college

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Well it has officially been over a month since I started this whole “college” deal and they aren’t kidding when they say time flies when you’re having fun. If there is one MAIN thing that I have learned while I have been here, it is that you really can make yourself as busy as you want yourself to be. Between classes, my sorority, taking care of myself, and making time to chat with my friends and family, I finally understand the concept of there aren’t enough hours in the day. I decided to document a few of the life lessons I have learned so far and share them with you all:

you are NEVER alone// literally. ever. This was one major change for my introverted self but I am honestly loving the change. Between having a fantastic roomie (hi maddog) & and entire dorm of all girls (the best thing EVER) there is ALWAYS someone to talk to. I was lucky enough to have lots of close friends from high school come to college with me and having them just a few floors away is seriously such a game changer. I am in my friend’s room more than I am my own most days, and having those steady conversations and relationships is SO important to keep yourself sane. This has helped me so much in terms of straying away from being homesick too. Surrounding yourself with familiar faces is always  a healthy way to bring the little bit of home with you without leaving the present moment. {***one big shoutout to Rachel/Molly for basically having a third roomie. the amount of queso I have eaten from your room is getting to be a problem please feel free to confront me about this at any time}

eating healthy literally is not as hard as everyone makes it out to be// one of my main goals going into college was to keep up maintaining the already fairly healthy lifestyle I have. I don’t eat awfully, so when I crave something, it is usually something healthy in the first place. creating a habit for yourself is so easy in college when you’re limited to your food availability. If your dining hall is anything like mine, no matter what specialized entrees may be available that day, there is always a fully stocked salad bar and sandwich line. I am a HUGE fan of building super strong salads packed with protein like grilled chicken, chickpeas, and eggs that can last me long periods of time. I don’t always have time with my schedule to eat a balanced breakfast, lunch, and dinner, so being able to find foods that hold you over is super important. Listen to your body and be good to it! yeah ice cream may taste good at the time, but gets you nowhere! Fueling your body with the good stuff like fruit and veggies will leave you feeling so much more energized and helps you stay away from the risk of getting tired easily or not feeling your best. Stocking your dorm room with only healthy snacks is also a main idea that has helped me a ton. I don’t have a big sweet tooth, so things like cookies and candy have never really bothered me, but I can eat popcorn like its my job. By choosing healthy options and making sure to PORTION CONTROL (!!!!!) having a snack while studying isn’t bad at all!

keep yourself busy// this is a HUGE thing for me. I am so used to being involved in so many activities at school, that given all the free time in college, I started off not knowing what to do with it! Find fun things that work with your schedule! For me, I get homework done better in the mornings, and have more motivation to workout after class. Being able to switch those two with the freedom of not being constricted to an 8 hour school day is the best thing in the world. On most campuses there are HUNDREDS of things to get involved in! & if all else fails, take a walk! I love leaving for class a little earlier to skip the bus ride to my class plus walking the hills of KU is surprisingly a workout within itself!

take care of yourself// for about the billionth time this post: you’re on your own in college. Do your laundry. wash your dishes. get your homework done. make the responsibility aspect of college something that excites you, and doing the little daily chores gets all the less awful.

Hope everyone’s first few days of fall are going fabulously! Until next time, xoxo,



weekly whirlwind

We are two weeks, TWO, weeks away from fall break which means the semester is 1/3 of the way over which is absolutely CRAZY for me to even halfway think about. I have loved college so much so far and am amazed about how fast time really does flu when you’re so busy all the time! Here’s how my week looked:


FAMILY // we had big/little reveal week this past week and boy oh boy was I spoiled. welcome to the blog Cassidy {the stinkin’ cute pineapple}!!!!! I am a TRIPLET which is so fun to have some other girls in my pledge class who share the sam big sis so we can stick together and have tons of fun over the next few years! Cassidy did too good spoiling me and tricking me as to who she was all week (she even read the blog and got me GogoSqueez!!!!) xoxoaxo :’)


my sweet friends that go to UNL back home in Nebraska decided to drive down to good old Lawrence this weekend to spend some time with us Jayhawks & not to brag but I have to say I think they had a blast! Here is my bestie Ann {& SISTER now!!}


I have family that lives about 30 minutes from campus and they decided to pick me up this weekend and I was able to head to my cousin’s xc meet and then we stopped by Limestone Pizza (a MUST if you’re ever in Lawrence) and grab a quick bite. We had three pizzas that were all divine and couldn’t decide on a dessert so we got all 4! hehe I’m never against sharing when it comes to chocolate peanut butter brownies!


Today is a rainy Sunday (and the first day so far that it has been below 80 degrees thank GOODNESS) and my roomie and I are taking advantage of this weather to coffee shop hop and get stuff done!!!! thumbs up for #gsdsundays!

Hope this next week of cooler weather is full of productivity and positivity!

until next time, xoxo, Ally